Marriage is work, work, and more work.
On here I will list some of the reason why people might divorce each other;
1. Cheating: Many respondents said that if their partner cheated on them, they would end the relationship. Although not every couple felt this way. Some respondents indicated a willingness to work through infidelity; however, many thought they could not. The person who did the cheating may be repentant but the person who was cheated on often feels so betrayed that they can’t get past it. They continue to punish their partner for the deep hurt they feel and the relationship often crumbles.
2. Dishonesty: Some believe that dishonesty involves only those incidents when they deliberately say things they know to be untrue, so neglecting to tell the truth is not seen as dishonesty. For others, anything that can be misleading from the truth, whether verbal or simply not expressed, is viewed as a lie. Many people in happy relationships said if their spouse lied to them, they may not be able to continue the relationship.
3. Addictions: For many, an addiction is something that cannot be forgiven, particularly if in the beginning of the relationship the addiction was not known or did not exist. Some addiction deal breakers were drug and alcohol problems, gambling or pornography. In addition to the first two concerns, addictions create trust issues. Many people felt they would not be able to count on their significant other to be consistent in his/her behavior and to put the relationship before anything else.
4. Abuse:
Many people stated that if their spouse hit them, or physically or
sexually abused their children, the relationship would be over. While
there are many people who opt to stay in physically abusive
relationships and some spouses who look the other way if their children
are abused by their spouse, many people would not allow themselves or
their children to be abused in that way especially by someone who
promised to love them. This, again, can be boiled down to a trust issue.
5. Major changes in priorities: Major changes in priorities can cause an end in a marriage. People grow and change; sometimes they grow together in the same direction and other times they grow apart. There are other people who never change and are the same person fifty years into the marriage. What can be problematic and end relationships is when one or both partners change their priorities in ways that are unacceptable to their spouse. Some people mentioned a major change in religious beliefs and practices could strain the relationship, some people talked about putting jobs or children before the marriage and yet others complained of drastic changes in friendships or relationships with in-laws.
We all have this expectation that our loved one is the person we know best, someone who will always have our back. When something happens that will shake our belief, it rocks the foundation of our relationship that we have with them.
All I want to say is that marriage is loads of patients, if you are not patient don't think that you would change. As I said before marriage is work, work, and more work. You create the kind of marriage you want to have with your spouse. When divorce comes or think of it is us giving up and wanting whats best for just you not the other person. So don't give up keep working at it and make it work no matter what it takes.
5. Major changes in priorities: Major changes in priorities can cause an end in a marriage. People grow and change; sometimes they grow together in the same direction and other times they grow apart. There are other people who never change and are the same person fifty years into the marriage. What can be problematic and end relationships is when one or both partners change their priorities in ways that are unacceptable to their spouse. Some people mentioned a major change in religious beliefs and practices could strain the relationship, some people talked about putting jobs or children before the marriage and yet others complained of drastic changes in friendships or relationships with in-laws.
We all have this expectation that our loved one is the person we know best, someone who will always have our back. When something happens that will shake our belief, it rocks the foundation of our relationship that we have with them.
All I want to say is that marriage is loads of patients, if you are not patient don't think that you would change. As I said before marriage is work, work, and more work. You create the kind of marriage you want to have with your spouse. When divorce comes or think of it is us giving up and wanting whats best for just you not the other person. So don't give up keep working at it and make it work no matter what it takes.